HeLLO ! Spppectacular weekend so far!!!? Be sure to relax, unwind
and prepare for the following week. I thought I’d share this piece with you
guys, for anyone who is really pressing in for change and wants to grow!
Here we go….
BE realistic about each new year:
easier. If it were, our strengths won’t be renewed. We would become less
efficient at solving new issues. I remember praying to God on the 31st of
December 2012 for a less difficult year to work with, as always with the
previous years. But I realized I wouldn’t have gained the amount of knowledge
or strength I had in 2013 for future challenges. Understand what needs to be changed before making these commitments.
them REALISTIC, ask God to teach you how to work through each goal and ask to learn to make lemonades out of the lemons
or the strength to be better at dealing with unexpected and or tough
#2. Enjoy your own company- Self-
think doing certain things alone was weird. Make it your sanctuary not a prison.
Reflect, embrace and don’t condemn your feelings. Being alone is nowadays seen
as bad, frightening and an unfortunate symptom. It also doesn’t translate to
being lonely, they are two different things.
independent voice of reasoning, and is never always boring. Most times a lot of
us find ourselves accumulating the voices of others to form our belief system,
but it is important we discover what works for us.And I sometimes do this I
realize I’m always growing a reasonable level of completeness within myself.
But when the reverse becomes the case, loneliness sets in. Finding a balance between spending time alone and with others is key (P.S-
loneliness often kicks in when people gradually become needy because they’ve never practiced or have always stigmatized being alone).
Small! Turn off your gadgets; get out of the social media bubble for a moment
or a day. I do this sometimes, that’s why I have a message box, I allow the
messages to flood in there for that period of time (You honestly don’t have to respond to every instant message, our generation is picking up this obsession) It will feel different but it
won’t kill you! (If anyone tries this, feel free to leave a comment, share your
experience(s)). Treat only you and yourself to lunch or dinner, take walks,
spend time at your local library, go to the theatre by yourself, and travel
alone: start with short trips, and plan carefully. Everyone should do this once
in a lifetime (P.S: It might feel weird at first, but you discover so many
things about yourself gradually, and you eventually are comfortable in your own
I’ve learned that these
two are key ingredients to self-confidence, not cockiness. Part
oneself is respecting others. So I’ve learned to set clear boundaries that are
in good alignment with my values or morals. Setting these standards will save
you a lot of stress, pain and hurts. It will also filter those that you don’t
need in your inner circle. And if anyone dislikes or hates your guts, that’s
okay. (Discipline is doing what you need to do even when you don’t want to.)
words and to be committed to myself first before expecting commitments from
everyone else was a major one for me. Ties in to Lesson #3, once I began to
establish self-discipline, many things I lost, but more important and rewarding
things I gained.
myself whenever I made mistakes, I gradually learned from them. You’ll lose
people but you’ll gain the right ones (- The right ones -I’m hoping that’s what
you’d want for yourself too.)
Recognize why, Prepare your words, set clear boundaries that you FULLY understand,
Practice, Practice! It’ll be awkward at first, but you’ll be so much better.
#5. Laugh a lot. It is okay to
cry or sob when the going gets tough, BUT snap out of it QUICK!
baby I smile a lot, I don’t even remember the person who was carrying the baby.
When I do something silly or make incredibly unwise things. I laugh very hard
(Well most times in my room, causing less of a nuisance I don’t have to explain
to anyone) I used to think I was weak each time things got tough and teared up.
Wrong! Wrong! When I see people who cry, I don’t think weakness anymore. I
think human and I think INCREDIBLE strength when you see them on the run again.
I’m more worried when I hear people commend others for not crying, attributing
this to strength.
ooh that favorite lipstick then go out and kick asses again!
I aspire to inspire- Are you having a great weekend?! Keep it positive and ahh-mazing. Looking forward to reading blog updates and new blogs from you guys (always exciting!). Keep that smile on your face! Remember You are Enough! Always!
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Stay beautiful! Stay Inspired!