HeLLO ! Spppectacular weekend so far!!!? Be sure to relax, unwind and prepare for the following week. I thought I’d share this piece with you guys, for anyone who is really pressing in for change and wants to grow! Here we go….
#1. BE realistic about each new year:
The next year never seems easier. If it were, our strengths won’t be renewed. We would become less efficient at solving new issues. I remember praying to God on the 31st of December 2012 for a less difficult year to work with, as always with the previous years. But I realized I wouldn’t have gained the amount of knowledge or strength I had in 2013 for future challenges. Understand what needs to be changed before making these commitments.
Try this: Rewrite them! Keep them REALISTIC, ask God to teach you how to work through each goal and ask to learn to make lemonades out of the lemons or the strength to be better at dealing with unexpected and or tough challenges.
#2. Enjoy your own company- Self- esteem booster
Alone! Yes! I used to think doing certain things alone was weird. Make it your sanctuary not a prison. Reflect, embrace and donโt condemn your feelings. Being alone is nowadays seen as bad, frightening and an unfortunate symptom. It also doesnโt translate to being lonely, they are two different things.
Enjoying my own company is where I find my independent voice of reasoning, and is never always boring. Most times a lot of us find ourselves accumulating the voices of others to form our belief system, but it is important we discover what works for us.And I sometimes do this I realize Iโm always growing a reasonable level of completeness within myself. But when the reverse becomes the case, loneliness sets in. Finding a balance between spending time alone and with others is key (P.S- loneliness often kicks in when people gradually become needy because they’ve never practiced or have always stigmatized being alone).
Try this: Start Small! Turn off your gadgets; get out of the social media bubble for a moment or a day. I do this sometimes, thatโs why I have a message box, I allow the messages to flood in there for that period of time (You honestly don’t have to respond to every instant message, our generation is picking up this obsession) It will feel different but it wonโt kill you! (If anyone tries this, feel free to leave a comment, share your experience(s)). Treat only you and yourself to lunch or dinner, take walks, spend time at your local library, go to the theatre by yourself, and travel alone: start with short trips, and plan carefully. Everyone should do this once in a lifetime (P.S: It might feel weird at first, but you discover so many things about yourself gradually, and you eventually are comfortable in your own skin).
#3. Self-respect and Self-discipline go a long way
I’ve learned that these two are key ingredients to self-confidence, not cockiness. Part
of respecting oneself is respecting others. So I’ve learned to set clear boundaries that are in good alignment with my values or morals. Setting these standards will save you a lot of stress, pain and hurts. It will also filter those that you donโt need in your inner circle. And if anyone dislikes or hates your guts, thatโs okay. (Discipline is doing what you need to do even when you donโt want to.)
Try this: Gradually set healthy boundaries, don’t be too hard on yourself. Write them down, do they make sense? And are they in alignment with your core values? People who notice these changes around you might find you weird at first,but trust me you will earn their respect without asking (P.S: You can do this, without being a snob)
#4. Let your no be NO and your Yes be YES
Learning to be true to words and to be committed to myself first before expecting commitments from everyone else was a major one for me. Ties in to Lesson #3, once I began to establish self-discipline, many things I lost, but more important and rewarding things I gained.
It was hard at first, but I had to practice. I did not beat up myself whenever I made mistakes, I gradually learned from them. Youโll lose people but youโll gain the right ones (- The right ones -Iโm hoping thatโs what youโd want for yourself too.)
Try this: Start Small, Slow down, Recognize why, Prepare your words, set clear boundaries that you FULLY understand, Practice, Practice! Itโll be awkward at first, but youโll be so much better.
#5. Laugh a lot. It is okay to cry or sob when the going gets tough, BUT snap out of it QUICK!
Every time I see a cute baby I smile a lot, I donโt even remember the person who was carrying the baby. When I do something silly or make incredibly unwise things. I laugh very hard (Well most times in my room, causing less of a nuisance I donโt have to explain to anyone) I used to think I was weak each time things got tough and teared up. Wrong! Wrong! When I see people who cry, I donโt think weakness anymore. I think human and I think INCREDIBLE strength when you see them on the run again. Iโm more worried when I hear people commend others for not crying, attributing this to strength.
Try this: Allow the tears, wipe them off, pray( Give it God), put on that smile, and ooh that favorite lipstick then go out and kick asses again!
Are you rrrrready? Let’s Do IT!! #WORTHIT
You are Fierce || You are Capable|| You are beautiful || You can do this!
I aspire to inspire- Are you having a great weekend?! Keep it positive and ahh-mazing. Looking forward to reading blog updates and new blogs from you guys (always exciting!). Keep that smile on your face! Remember You are Enough! Always!
Thank you for reading!
Yes! I’m interested in your feedback, experiences and thoughts. Leave me your links as well if you wish, I return sweet gestures too!
Stay beautiful! Stay Inspired!
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37 comments
Okay, I'm going to try that getting out of the social media bubble. Twitter, instagram, bbm.
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You totally should! Let me know what the experience is like for you ๐
Love this post! Amazing tips that can definitely be applied in many areas of my life as well. Your words are beautiful!
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Thank you Chymere
These are great tips! Definitely the no & yes one!
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I hope it helps ๐
Amazing tips , im definitely gonna apply 1 or 2. Thanks b
P.s – I always try to comment on ur posts but d comment box usually disappears on my end. Im glad I cld post dis comment ๐
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Ohh Oh! Isn't that weird now, Sorry about that, I'm glad you are able to now .Awwwh Fola thank you, Please do and share your experience
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Wow, how nice and how so true. I love the loving yourself part and enjoying your own company because that just summarizes everything else into one. Awesome post!
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Absolutely! I'm glad you related to something , thanks..
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Loved it! Summarizes what I'm trying to do this year. You left a lovely comment on my latest post so I checked out your blog and it's lovely! Following on bloglovin' now (:
I did, it was filled with wisdom. Likewise! I'm glad we are taking mini steps to grow. Thank you. I follow too
Words of Wisdom!
I've always enjoyed my own company but then social media came along and got in the way. I used to get nervous when people don't reply me immediately and I thought others felt the same way, so i felt the need to reply every message almost immediately. I finally overcame my addiction late last year and I've never felt better ^.^
I'm still working on letting my No be NO and my Yes be Yes
Thanks for this post!
These are super x
yea you right….
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Yeah , it is so easy to get so sucked in, we'll keep working, till we get close enough .
wow, I'm so glad I found you blog ๐ Numbers 2 and 3 are so so true! Just yesterday I was feeling really stifled creatively, but I realized it's because I never really give myself time on my own, away from the internet/other distractions to explore the full extent of my creativity. I want to practice taking breaks –a week, or more if needed –from the internet, etc. to really work on my own grind, and stop getting bogged down what I see everyone else doing all over social media ๐
Hi dear, just found your blog and..wow, it's amazing! You've got such a fresh style…find it so inspiring, even if our styles may seem very different I think we've got a very similar point of view! I'll come reading your blog much more doll! If you want check my blog and if you find it as interesting as I find yours we can follow each other! Just let me know,
Laura xxx
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Ohh I'm glad you found my blog too, and that you find it very insightful. Yes I find that too, you are totally right, sometimes it's because we haven't got into our little bubble. Please doooo it, if you like come back and share what that feels like, that way it helps others who are also looking for insight.
Thanks Maria!
Looking forward to your Youtube ville ๐
Thank you, I'm glad you do. I'll definitely check out yours
I love #2 and #3 has kinda been my anthem lately, I don't know if you can tell or not lol. Great list. I love reading empowering thoughts about how to become a more empowering woman, it's a work in progress but I love that I feel stronger and braver every day ๐
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I love hearing that, that's fantastic! Those two you highlighted pretty much set the ground for the rest of them. Yas! girl, I see the new series you on, really inspiring. Yes we are all a working progress! #teamgrowth
Wise resolutions and they are very practical
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Great tips! I don't do New Years resolutions, but definitely agree with keeping them realistic!
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Great tips, I must agree with you on all of them. Basic steps to a better life ๐
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Maja
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Ohh same here and I did point them out, Yas! realistic is the way forward ๐
great tips…practising some of the tips.thanks for visitng my blog.
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Thank you
Totally. I'd be sure to check out your blogsville too ๐
Awwwsome! Share your experience if you want too
Hi,
really nice written and explained. Itยดs a pleasure to read such a motivating article.
Katharine
nice article…should try put some of this into practice…
I follow your blog…x
hoping for a follow back
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Your aunt would be one of d few namesakes I have! Thanks for your comment! I follow via GFC! You can follow there too.thnx. x
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Lool. Ditto! ๐
I love this post! All wonderful advice, and I esp love the ones about enjoying time on your own to develop your own voice and take on life, shutting off your social media for a bit to experience life on its own terms rather than electronically, and letting your nos be nos and yes be yes! I was really trying to work on that last one for a while because, like it says in the Bible, your oaths mean nothing and your character isn't much better if you keep on swearing to do something and end up never following up! So I really wanted my character to be a testimony to others; if I say I'll do something, I always want to do it. This is one of the ways I want to let God shine through me! ๐
xx Debbie
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Thank you!Wow Debbie! You have such a beautiful mind and an amazing insight! Yes! that's the yummy part, when your testimony can move people, heal, build and encourage people, now that's a growing woman! And on top of it all let God shine through just in your exact words! Suchhh power and strength is unbeatable and priceless!
You are beautiful and He will do amazing things through you
I'm so happy this post helps you think a little. Now this makes me look forward to seeing you and having more discussions with you during our meeting!
Thank you for sharing your beautiful experience and thoughts on this material ! loved it!
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I love this post. The self-esteem part is a most. Kisses!